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You are listening to we Woke Up Like this and I am your host, rev Joya. This is a show dedicated to embodied spiritual awakening, and we love to talk about the messy magic of living a soul-led life. A true spiritual awakening is not all unicorns and rainbows, and on this show we are not afraid to talk about it. Your awakened frequency is the frequency that will change the world. Enjoy the show.

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Hello, beautiful souls, welcome to this week's episode of we Woke Up Like this. Today I'm going to be talking about stages of soul growth, and I also want to share about a training that I went and did last weekend. Speaking of soul growth, I'm competing once again in North America's Next Greatest Speaker competition, and I won a spot last October and the competition isn't until August. So back then that was a long way away, and now October is like a lifetime ago, literally, and so I really considered dropping out of this competition. I'm like I don't know if I can show up and can I do it energetically, and I really sat with it for a while. I meditated, I prayed, I asked for direction and guidance and it was a big yes, yes to do it. This speaker training was really really, really beautiful and profound because they taught us to know our content. I mean, we know our content, that's why we're talking about it, our passion, our purpose. And they teach you how to have stage presence and how to connect deeply with your audience and how to really authentically share from a soul level. And it was a super beautiful, super super healing training. It was so much more than just speaking, because as we go through these levels of the soul, as we are on our path of ascension and we're on this path of soul awakening and restoring our soul to be the intelligence that's animating the consciousness of ascension, and we're on this path of soul awakening and restoring our soul to be the intelligence that's animating the consciousness of our body we want to make sure that we're not projecting our wounds onto the world, and we all will, and we all do. We're human. So for me, the soul's awakening has been happening for a long time. It's been happening for a while but honestly and this is why I want to talk about this I was in this mindset of a higher self or a soul self or some other self than who I am, without realizing that what I'm seeking for is right here, and I've just got these wounds and these blocks that I'm protecting myself from the world through.

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And I realized this intensely at this speaker training. I said, oh my gosh, I give to hide. I shared it on my Instagram because it was such a powerful realization that I was giving of myself to keep myself hidden. And I realized it in an exercise when we were soul gazing at one another which I've done before and I was just beaming love at the woman I was looking at and she just started saying what she saw in me and I felt myself instantly want to look away. I didn't want to be seen and I noticed this energy inside of me, not wanting to be seen from someone I don't know, not wanting to be seen from someone who doesn't really know me, and she's just saying what she's seeing. It was really intense and I realized like, oh my gosh, I give, give, give as a way of controlling and manipulating my environment so that I can stay hidden.

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Because I am a seer, because I am highly intuitive, because I am highly feeling, I can see and sense and pick up what other people need, oftentimes before they even know what it is, and meet those needs so that they only see me through the lens of them getting what they want. So they see me a certain way. Do you understand that subtle manipulation I'm talking about there? It's very sneaky, very subtle tactics that our ego uses to protect us, and the harm in doing that is that I'm meeting people at the level of their small self instead of staying in my divine coherence and meeting them at the level of the light beyond the wounded projections. It's a really powerful thing to realize, and I did that a lot before Weston passed. I just wasn't aware that's what I was doing. I thought I was giving out of the goodness of my heart, and, yes, that is also true because that's who I was doing. I thought I was giving out of the goodness of my heart and, yes, that is also true because that's who I am. I'm very giving, I'm very generous, and I was staying hidden in doing it, which means guess what?

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I have a receiving problem. I'm working on that now because that's part of this process I'm in now of the stages of awakening that I'm walking through. So the soul's awakening isn't always a gentle unfolding, like we think it will be and we hope it will be, and it's also happening nowhere except right here, right now, in the day that we're in, in, the moment that we're in and meeting every moment open, the moment that we're in and meeting, every moment open. And some of us receive or don't go through these powerful soul transitions until something shatters us and breaks us open so we can receive the light we've always been, and this is the path that I'm on right now. It's dissolved, everything false around me. It makes it so clear to see. All my BS is so clear to see and I'm like, oh, there's another wound to let go, to release. And it's really as quick now as just aware of them. I said, just becoming aware of them. I don't have to analyze it, I don't have to know why, I don't need to know what the limiting belief is. None of that. To become aware of it is enough. And then to choose to let it go. Because if I choose to now hop into the ring and investigate it, I'm going to keep its reality alive because we create through our energy and what we seek we find.

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I want to share the four stages of awakening that your soul goes through as you embody your soul and allow it to lead your life. And stage one is what I call the shattering, and it's when your old reality dies, it falls away. And life has a way. Our soul has a way because it's seeking its fullest expansion and growth of itself, of undoing with surgical precision everything that we are, not, everything that's in the way. And whether that comes through loss or crisis or we just get freaking tired of pretending to be something other than we are, our constructed reality starts to collapse, and it's never a punishment because what we were doing was not fulfilling in the first place. And it's through the cracks of our life now and our brokenheartedness that grace floods in like light through a shattered window.

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And you know you're in this phase of soul awakening when nothing makes sense to you anymore. Your old beliefs start to crumble. It's like what that doesn't make sense. You see with new eyes that your identities that you used to take so much pride in begin to dissolve, and you couldn't care less about them. And our mind scrambles to rebuild what's falling around us, because our mind seeks to keep us safe. That's its job. But the soul is saying let it freaking burn.

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And sometimes we don't have a choice, like I didn't have it. Well, that's not true. We always have a choice. I had a choice how I go through my grief journey. I had a choice how I go through my grief journey, absolutely. There are days that I just want to hole up in bed and cry and sleep and do nothing, and once in a while I do that. I give myself that grace and I hope you do too. But don't get stuck there, because this is where our mystical experiences can begin. Amen.

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It's a natural consequence of no longer being able to maintain an illusion that we start to live a truth. And this work here in grace is radical allowance, radical acceptance, and we stop trying to make sense of what's fallen apart. We stop trying to make sense of the breaking and the shattering and the dissolution of our reality around us. We just let it go of our reality around us. We just let it go. Our grace that comes in tells the truth and it helps us distinguish between the stories you've been told, the stories you've been sold and bought, and the truth your bones and soul have always known.

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And in this stage it can take a while, and that's okay, because it it all unfolds and it's all perfect right here, right now, where you are. There's nowhere to get to. I think this is the biggest lie, is that there's some day, there's something, there's some place, there's some other version of me waiting in the future that I'm just going to walk into, when that's not true at all. Our future unfolds now, in every moment, in every choice, in every breath, and so we want to become conscious co-creators of our lives. Not creating on autopilot, not creating out of habit, and for me it's just been as simple as noticing what do I dislike after I've done it, what doesn't feel good, and rather than beating yourself up about it, you just choose something different next time, because you remember how this feels. And we ask for grace to descend upon us. Grace isn't something that we have to earn. It comes when you're ready for it.

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So, after you're in this stage of just being okay with the messy middle now of life, everything's out of the closet, everything's spilled out in front of you. You're choosing what to throw away and discard and being brave enough to step into something else in the moment, to try something else, to say something else or just to keep quiet. And we start to go into stage two, which is the searching, which is learning to navigate by your soul and, like a phoenix, you literally rise from the ashes of your own life and you begin rebuilding your life. You learn to navigate by an inner compass that you're just learning to feel and you're learning to trust. And faith stops being something that you practice and it becomes something you are, and synchronicities begin to show up constantly to let you know you're on the right track. And this it takes practice to know and to listen inside of ourselves and then to trust and follow what's arising in our other brains, in our heart brain and in our gut brain.

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And the stage brings a very peculiar challenge, because you're learning to trust yourself and your own inner guidance system more than the world outside of you. Everything you used to look to, the people you used to look to, the validation you used to seek, you stop and your decisions stop making logical sense, sometimes to you and oftentimes to the people around you, but they start making soul sense and they feel good. You start to develop a spiritual discernment inside of yourself and you start to build an evidence file of divine guidance that helps you keep choosing to trust yourself when that rational mind kicks in and rebels and starts throwing up doubt and fear and limitations and what ifs and all of those worst case scenarios that our mind likes to go to. And this work is just simply practicing trust, self-trust as a moment by moment, daily discipline, because every choice becomes an opportunity to choose our soul over our strategy. And it feels so good. And we choose our intuition over guarantees and we're learning the difference between ego desires that grasp at life, that grasp and cling and seek and want, and the soul callings that call things to us, that magnetize things to us. We've stopped chasing our self-worth, our goals, all of that stuff. Chasing means something's running from you. So stop chasing and start attracting, be it, trust it, allow it to magnetize and come to you. And we stay in this for as long as it takes, until we're really in a rhythm now of trusting ourselves and we don't rely on external validation anymore and we make a choice for ourself, for our soul, even when it doesn't make sense, especially when it doesn't make sense.

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And stage three is the embodiment process and it's becoming who you really are and who you were always meant to be. And this is where you absolutely have stopped seeking the light and realize that you are the light, you are everything you've been seeking. And we move into this beautiful process of surrender and it transforms from defeat into partnership with divine intelligence. You don't dim yourself anymore for false peace. Our authenticity becomes our non-negotiable, even when it costs you belonging in places that you used to fit. You don't fit anymore.

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I'm not saying that this is easy, because it's not. I think that's. I mean, if it was a simple process, more people would do it. But it feels so good once you get through all of these beginning parts where, honestly, are so painful and scary. But then all of a sudden, life begins flowing with ease and sometimes that ease can feel really suspicious to the mind and the mind will kick up and be like hmm, maybe there's a red flag here, maybe you should wait for the next shoe to drop all those things that our, our mind likes to do. But you just don't listen to it anymore and you stop fighting with yourself and you start dancing and enjoying your true nature.

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Your gifts emerge. You don't have to go seeking and searching and finding them. And what are my gifts and all of those things, they just emerge naturally. The more you surrender into allowing your soul to lead your life and you totally trust yourself because you don't do things that insult your soul anymore. You've just gotten out of your way All of the ego wounds, all of those projections have stopped creating the problems that you are seeking to heal, because you're not seeking to heal anything anymore. You're not seeking problems anymore. You're not seeking to heal anything anymore. You're not seeking problems anymore. You're not seeking anything anymore and the mystical stops being separate from the mundane. Washing your dishes can become your prayer, you can breathe with communion, you can eat with devotion even though I didn't with my bag of chips today and I felt the difference because this is what I've been practicing and this work is really us coming out of our spiritual hiding places, living openly as we really are, even when others do not understand us and they think we're nuts and you might lose relationships. That's the reality of this.

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But we want to integrate our mystical experiences so completely that there's no longer a spiritual life and a regular life. There's just life, lived consciously, lived sacredly, lived consistently, in alignment with who we are, as soul led beings. There's a lightness that comes with this. There's a freedom, a real freedom, that comes with this, when you don't have to put on a show, you don't have to put on a mask, you don't have to worry about what you told somebody, you don't have to worry about what you don't want people to see. You just be yourself, authentic, soul led self, which is what you came here to be anyway. It's so powerful, it's so beautiful.

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And then the final stage is when we get to the stage of service and we become a bridge between worlds and we just overflow. And now, when we want to give, we're giving from that overflow. And now, when we want to give, we're giving from that overflow. We're not trying to be good or spiritual or helpful or nice or any of those things, but we do it because love has filled us up so completely that sharing just becomes inevitable. Your personal healing reveals itself as medicine for collective awakening, and it really is.

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I was just talking to a friend the other day who we were talking about our childhoods and she and I have such similar paths through life and how much traumas we've endured and I said, yeah, but us awakening and healing, even if the person listening right now, who has been doing this work, all on your own, all in your quiet little room, and nobody knows what you've been up to You're impacting the collective consciousness through your courage to heal and stop projecting and creating wounds in the world. So thank you, whoever you are. In this, you become a conscious bridge and you want to help others navigate their own soul's dissolution and hold their hand and say you'll survive this. I promise you'll get to the other side, and service at this stage is not about what you're doing. It's who you're being while you're doing whatever you're doing. And you want to be so authentic that your soul's frequency is what radiates from you and that your very presence just gives people the permission to be who they really are.

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You become living proof that consciousness survives everything and, yes, even death. There's no such thing as death. Your life becomes a testament to transformation and our work is really learning to serve from our overflow rather than from our depletion, helping others through their shattering while honoring our own continued spiraling through these stages. They're not one and done and we don't feel like we're superior to any other human being, because when we go through this process, there's a real grace in which you feel the humility of your humanity. You will walk through fire and come out and realize it didn't burn you, because you are the fire, you are the flame. And these are not linear at all. They circle back around again and again and they go deeper and deeper and some markers that can help you realize where you are is one everything I thought I knew is crumbling away. Two I'm learning to trust something I can't see. Three I'm finally becoming who I've always been. And four my very existence serves the awakening. Isn't that beautiful. Can you imagine a world where everyone was awakened to their soul, which means they're awakened to the fact that they are? Love, pure love.

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Every stage that you go through strips away another layer of separation between you, your ego, and your soul, and your soul and the divine. When we go through something really hard that shatters us, it breaks our shell open and then our searching develops the wings. Embodying our soul teaches us to fly and our service shows us that we were always the sky and there was never anything to seek in the first place. And this is the Magdalene wisdom, the divine feminine path that transforms, through feeling fully, every single thing in our body, in our life. There's no bypassing, not transcending our humanity, but bringing our full consciousness to it. And not by escaping the mess of life, but by finding God, goddess, right in the middle of it. And not waiting for resurrection, but living it now, in every moment, in this body, in this life as this impossibly beautiful bridge between spirit and matter. The path promises nothing easy, but it delivers everything real. Your deepest loss can become your greatest liberation. Your broken heart becomes the birthplace of your own mystical awakening. You yourself have always been light, experiencing itself through the sacred prism of your form. You're it. Nowhere to run to, nowhere to seek, nothing to look for. You're already here, you're already it, you are what you're seeking.

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It sounds almost like a cliche because you hear it so much, but then hearing it and experiencing it, hearing it and living it are two totally different things. That's what I wanted to share today, this beautiful path of soul awakening as I'm diving into writing my book Wake Up in the Game, and it is a sevenfold path to awaken and live a soul led life. Path to awaken and live a soul-led life. I'm walking it right now and it's so unbelievably beautiful, it has me so grateful. It really does. And it seems like such a strange thing to say when being in the midst of grief, which I am. So it's like this strange paradox I'm living now in this and space, and that's okay and in fact maybe that's where we're supposed to live. I am spiritual and I am human and my spirituality does not allow me to bypass any of the painful things of the human journey. It just doesn't, because it's part of the soul's growth, it's part of the whole experience that we're here to learn from. So that's it for this week.

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Beautiful souls, I hope this conversation was helpful for your soul's growth and the path that you're on. Know that you're already what you're seeking, truly, truly you are. There's nowhere to get to Stay in the day you're in, notice what stage of soul growth you're in, and try to make conscious choices in alignment with what your soul is calling forward. All right, beloveds, I will see you next week and I wish you such a beautiful see you next week and I wish you such a beautiful, wonderful rest of yours.

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And, as always, I invite you to go to vibologycom V-I-B-O-L-O-G-I-Ecom and download your Soul Luminous Activation, meditation and Guide to upgrade your frequency so you can live as the light you are. And next month I will be creating a self-trust masterclass and I'm so excited I'm working on that now, wishing you so much love, peace, joy. I'll see you next week. Bye, thank you for listening to. We Woke Up Like this. Your likes, comments, subscribes and reviews are deeply appreciated If you're interested in being on the show are deeply appreciated. If you're interested in being on the show, please send an email to podcast at vibologycom. And until next time, remember your authentic frequency is the frequency that will change the world.